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Good Morning. I would like to support you and Stephan but am not comfortable with a monthly payment subscription. Can I make a one time donation to your cause?

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Stephanie Terrill Aud's avatar

Thank you for your voice sharing some awareness. As a byproduct of this system it’s been so heart wrenching. Ever since I was little Ive never felt like I belonged. I desired my parents to love me...how l needed them to love me but how does a 5 year old talk about such an simple yet complex topic when the majority of who I spoke to were my imaginary friends...the feeling of being alone in a crowded room...where I turned to unhealthy even more damaging ways to escape...by the age of 10 and didn’t even realize it. My health continued to decline as I’ve been overweight the majority of my life since I was in first grade. I always struggled to fit in..shit i struggled to fit into a pair of pants. Memories of my childhood are very scattered and the ones that are clear have rare glimpses of my family doing “family things “ or what I expected them to be. Even though this was my normal...deep inside it felt wrong...there was so much neglect and abuse...yet it didn’t look like neglect or abuse...my parents worked a lot... and my primary caregiver was my grandmother who was already elderly...can you imagine trying to care for 3 children in your 60s? Im a 39 single mom with 2 degrees on government assistance receiving $850 a month that struggles to try to take care of not only myself but my son whose special needs and I’ve never even made $20 an hour...but I’ve accumulated 108k educational debt and 20k in personal debt...about 15-16 now since I decided to start taking care of that...without study income. I’ve been in survival mode for so long and I’m trying to get out of it so that I can actually have a life and not always be in so much pain...I want to heal emotionally, mentally, physically, and financially...this past couple years have been the most painful yet slightly freeing...ive been in between mental health therapist for a couple months now but I made the decision to no matter what that I did some kind of therapy for myself...so I created thought provoking open ended questions that were targeted to specific areas of myself I’ve been able to identify within myself....through my years of always wanting to know “whats wrong with me” “and why am I like this?” And trying to save others from being like me...to not make the same mistakes I have...I gained a lot more understanding of myself...

while I see myself as more spiritual than religious i still keep certain quotes that have keep me going when I’ve just about given up...that i only needed to have faith as small as a mustard seed

I do apologize if I overstepped my boundaries by sharing some of my deepest feelings about just some of my experiences regarding those 5 pinpoints mentioned...that manifested have deeper wholes. It just felt right and necessary...

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